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What to do When Your Partner Keeps Leaving You

September 3, 2022

Woman mourning after her partner left her again

Introduction: What to do When Your Partner Keeps Leaving You

When your partner keeps leaving you, it can be a frustrating and heartbreaking experience. You may feel like you are always the one getting left behind, and you may start to wonder what you are doing wrong. You may also feel like you are not good enough for them, and that they must want someone better than you. If your partner keeps leaving you, it can be a big blow to your self-esteem, and it can be hard to get over. Thus, this situation is very difficult to deal with.

In this article we will discuss why partners leave, the feelings we are left to cope with, and what to do when your partner keeps leaving you. 

Woman keeps leaving her partner and he watches her go

Why do Partners Leave?

When your partner keeps leaving you, it feels like you’re constantly getting your heart broken. If you want to stop this pattern once and for all, communicate with your partner about what’s going on. They may be able to give you some insight into why they keep leaving. Hence, it is important that you’re communicating effectively and listening to what they have to say. By communicating with your partner, you two can get on the same page about the situation. 

If your partner refuses to talk to you, then consider the following reasons as to why they keep leaving. It is important to note, however, that it is not up to you to solve all your relationship problems. Relationships require work from both parties. So, if your partner is dismissive of this issue, then reevaluate if you even want to continue a relationship with somebody who does not respect your feelings. We will discuss how to cope with the end of a relationship later on in this article. 

Couple angry with each other in the car


Often, partners leaver when they do not feel appreciated. So, communicate with them about their relationships needs and about what is lacking. If your partner is dissatisfied with some aspects of the relationship, then talk about what you two can do about it. You and your partner may even agree upon couples therapy! Additionally, if your partner keeps leaving because of something hurtful that you did, then it is also important to take responsibility, apologize, and change any harmful habits. 


Another reason partners may leave is because of conflict in the relationship. If you’re constantly arguing with your partner, try to find ways to resolve the conflict instead of just giving up and walking away. If you find that they are always the ones running away from conflict, then sit down and talk to them about it. Discuss what you would prefer from them. For example, you two could take a break from an argument whenever it gets heated for a select amount of time. After the break, you and your partner can get together and calmly and constructively discuss the point of contention. There are many ways to handle conflict in a relationship, so make sure you communicate with your partner about how you would like to deal with conflict. 

Woman trying to control sad man by leaving him


If you believe your partner leaves often in order to control the relationship, then it is best to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. This is because it is possible that your partner is manipulative and may be trying to control you. Ask yourself these following questions: Is our relationship destructive? Do I feel respected and valued in my relationship? Is my worth recognized? Does my partner seem as if they care about what I am saying? Please know that there are many people and resources out there to help you if you find yourself in an abusive relationship.


Finally, partners may also leave because they’re simply not happy with the relationship. If this is the case, it is time to have a talk with your partner and see if there’s anything that can be done to improve the relationship. If your partner no longer wants a relationship with you, then you must accept this and move on, no matter how painful it may be. 

Alone on a bench contemplating life after being left

The Feeling of Being Left

When your partner keeps leaving you, it can be a deeply painful experience. You may feel abandoned, alone, and rejected. It is important to remember that you are not alone in this situation and that there are things you can do to help yourself heal.

If you are feeling lost and alone after your partner has left you, it is important to reach out for support. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what you’re going through. They can provide an understanding ear and offer helpful advice. It may also be helpful to join a support group for people who have experienced similar situations.

Man mourning alone near the beach

What to do When Your Partner Keeps Leaving You: How to Cope

When your partner keeps leaving you, it’s normal to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, anxiety, and relief. It can be difficult to cope with being left, but there are some things you can do to make the process easier.


First, give yourself time to grieve. This is a loss, and it’s important to allow yourself to feel the pain. Cry if you need to, or get angry if that’s what you’re feeling. Just don’t bottle everything up.

Get Support

Second, as mentioned above, try to seek out support from others. Reach out to friends and family. Or, if you don’t feel comfortable discussing your relationship with them, then consider reaching out to a therapist. It is best not to isolate yourself during this sensitive time. You don’t want to be stuck replaying the painful memories in your head. 

Man looking at the sunset while he accepts he was left again by his partner

Take Care of Yourself

Third, make sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Try to eat well and get plenty of rest. Keeping a regular exercise routine can also help you feel better emotionally and physically. 

Stay Busy

Fourth, try to stay busy. Keeping yourself occupied will help take your mind off of the break-up and prevent you from wallowing in self-pity. Of course, as noted, if you need to cry, then cry! Just make sure you are not simply falling into a pit of depression. So, find a new hobby, spend time with friends and family, or volunteer for a cause you’re passionate about.

Above all, focus on accepting that your partner left – again. Accept that you no longer will tolerate this treatment, and focus on building your own self-worth. It won’t be easy and it will hurt a lot – but you have lived a life without them, and you can do it again. 

Woman feeling sad after break-up

Conclusion: What to do When Your Partner Keeps Leaving You

In conclusion, if your partner keeps leaving you, it is time to have a conversation about what is going on. If they are not willing to talk or if they continue to leave, it may be time to move on. You do not deserve somebody who does not see your value. There is no shame in taking care of yourself and your own happiness.