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Do Not Speak Bad Of Yourself
February 25, 2022
Do not speak badly of yourself; it holds more meaning than you think.
When you speak badly of yourself, it holds more power than you think it does. Subconsciously you have value in what you say about yourself. Saying the words “I am” hold immense value in your persona on how you will act, speak, and react in the future. A lot of this is subconscious, but part of it can be conscious!
A person’s daily mental output ranges from 9,000 to 60,000. Even though that’s a lot of thoughts, most of them are negative. There are around 48,000 negative thoughts in our heads every single day. Negative thoughts account for 17% of all thoughts. Negative ideas tend to bring you down. Do you have any idea how 17 million people feel every year?
An interesting Quote From David Gemmel
“A warrior has only one true friend. Only one man he can rely on. Himself. So he feeds his body well; he trains it; works on it. Where he lacks the skill, he practices. Where he lacks knowledge, he studies. But above all, he must believe. He must believe in his strength of will, purpose, heart, and soul. Do not speak badly of yourself, for the warrior inside you hears your words and is lessened by them. You are strong, and you are brave. There is a nobility of spirit within you. Let it grow — you will do well enough. Now, where is that damned food?”
We all have an inner self-directed by the words we speak to ourselves. So whether we like it or not, our terms matter!
What are some tips to stop speaking badly of yourself?
The following are some of the most popular methods people employ to break the cycle:
- Tuning in and catching what you’re saying to yourself is critical.
- Ask yourself – is it true?
- Remind yourself that your thoughts are just that, thoughts! – Speak up and say, “I’m thinking about…”. Distancing oneself from one’s thoughts is one way to do this.
It’s time to call your inner critic by its proper name. Your inner critic can become less intimidating when you think of it as a force outside of yourself, making it easier to recognize that you don’t have to agree with your thoughts.
Take a step back and look at the big picture. There is always an opportunity to contemplate more on this notion in a bigger context.
Ask yourself – “What may be a more beneficial thought?”
Inquire whether you’d say it to a friend: Would you? Would you prefer a good friend to express these thoughts to you, or would you rather say them out loud to a friend?
Effects of speaking badly to yourself:
Self-doubt has the potential to do us a lot of harm. Research has connected rumination and self-blame to an increased risk of mental health issues in a large-scale study. Negative thoughts can lead to emotions of powerlessness and decreased motivation. Speaking badly of oneself has been connected to depression. Thus, it’s a problem that needs fixing.
Show self-compassion instead
Why wouldn’t you do the same for yourself if you wouldn’t say something like that about a friend or a teammate? Practicing self-compassion can be challenging at first, but the more you work on it, the simpler it becomes. Be gentle with yourself. You can’t expect to be an expert at something you’ve only just begun to understand. Rather than getting caught up in negative thinking, allow yourself to be OK with the process of learning and evolving.
Gratitude above all negative self talk and speaking poorly of oneself
Becoming grateful for what we have is an act of art. It is beneficial to cultivate an attitude of thankfulness daily to improve our outlook on life. As you put in more time and effort, you’ll begin to notice a shift away from your negative thought patterns toward more positive ones.
I hope these pointers can assist you in lessening the amount of negative self-talk you engage in and increasing the amount of positive self-talk you engage in. But, don’t give up because this transformation does not occur overnight. As always, if your negative thoughts are harming your life, you should get professional help. One final idea: “Every negative thinking is a deposit on your failure, but every positive thought is an investment in your future.” Remember that a single positive thought can profoundly affect your life.